The ego makes one personalise the choice another made for themselves in correlation to you. It personalises because it applies the other persons truth to you. It gets caught up in a web of indirectly treating the other persons truth as the arbiter to judge & measure situation by. So it ends up affecting your self esteem one way or the other. You hone in on all the vulnerable things you feel and project it on the outside all because of this flawed navigation of another’s truth. You feel judged, warped, angry, unfairly treated, hurt, disregarded and/or even abandoned.
The soul sees the choice and is most cognizant of all that you are. It doesn’t personalise it takes their truth by letting it be just that, their truth/ what their heart resonated with. This navigation gives birth to insight for you. The arbiter the soul judges by is in correlation to its truth not the other persons.
Because of the souls courage to accept without resistance. It’s free to discern with out contamination of victim consciousness. What does this persons truth mean to you? What does it teach you about life and about them? This form of navigating around matter ultimately teaches you about yourself. You walk away with a truth birthed from the evaluation made because your own resonation is and allowed to be organically realised.
There is no resentment towards the other person when your soul navigates, there is just awareness. Resentment is a messenger that informs you of where you are giving your power away. Awareness is a well lit platform that Supports you in standing/staying in your power.
Every day people do one of two things, give away their power or not stand in it. The ego gives it away the soul stands firmly in it. This post topic is just one example of how.
Illusions melt away when you find the knowing of your worth. You may even find you feel there is nothing to forgive…
The grace of Allah truly liberates, as victim consciousness becomes exposed for what it truly is. The egos battle cry for survival.
Power fulfils strength provides, use your strength to step into your power. Through trials and hard times it’s your strength that Allah builds. Your power is something he has already created within you.
Strength expands in the heart, vulnerability gives it its wings. When a tear rests in your lower eyelid it’s glad tidings, you’ve stepped into the realm where your power is held. This realm feels dark like fatigue and heart ache all mixed in one. You find yourself in a state of sober thoughtfulness.
It is here your intuitive intelligence speaks and you are able to recieve its guidance. It wants you to stay in this realm so you can be replenished. Power fulfils because it intersperses your wholeness, in all that you do. For that to happen it must first rejuvenate you, envelope you become you. Let it.
“I am not what I think I am, and I am not what you think I am. I am what I think you think I am.” ~Charles Cooley
The greatest gift you can give yourself is to take back your power of definition. The perception you have of yourself relies heavily on how you define things. How are you defining things? Is it based on a system of unconditional self love that houses your own values. Or a system of doubt that houses that of others?
If you have in any way let the opinions, truths, values and expectations of others guide or worse manage your reality. You need to take back your power of definition. Relinquishing that unconsciously is the root of the problem. A problem that can take years or even the good part of a life time for some to discover.
Your reality doesn’t hinge on things outside of you, if your heart doesn’t absorb something, it doesn’t. You can’t force it and you shouldn’t want to. Let the chips fall how it may, any cognitive dissonance that arises is Allah teaching you self trust. Your heart is your northern star not someone else’s listen to your own. Trust your own truth of who you are. Are you someone who has no agenda with truth? Are you someone who doesn’t lie to themselves and is open to growth however difficult? If yes then trust your heart and what it absorbs and doesn’t absorb .
Power of definition rests on trusting your hearts resonation. Especially when something is amiss, trust it even if it causes you turmoil. Clarity comes at dawn. leave the details behind implications of doing that, alone. The devil is in the detail for a reason, to get entangled in making sense of things, is how you lose your way to begin with.
We each have a system inside us that is sufficient to individually govern us. It’s unlocked by a key of self trust. A key you can’t access without unconditional self love.
Instead of scanning for an error in yourself as you are accustomed to. Trust your heart when it lovingly throws a middle finger up i.e when it stands firm against all odds. When it contradicts what you once held close. Firmness that doesn’t separate you from love is steadfastness.
Power of definition remains intact and whole when you let your heart define what is. Take off the lens that diverts you from stepping into your power of definition. It’s the mother of illusions. It Keeps one stuck in what was, as they miss what is. What is, is not threatened by what was. Not unless you are intolerant of the ebbs and flows of life.