Imbalance

The places where imbalances arise that are then railroaded in the name of maslaha (making peace between others by bringing benefit to a matter or preventing harm) are also the very same places injustices can be birthed. To railroad people is to shut process down and imbalances are a sign going against that, as space is needed for truth to sprout through ripe.

One example of how this happens is bringing a person who wronged another and the wronged party together on equal footing. (Key words equal footing) they’re not the same! You can not invite the wrong doer and the wronged person to the same party with the same invitation. (And if you can’t even differentiate between them, you have no business doing or initiating maslaha in the first place )

To do so is to appeal to the ego of the wrongdoer and invalidate the honour and haq/truth/rights of the wronged. 

The very essence of commandments and prohibitions in Islam is embedded in the concept of maslaha. Imagine then our strategy of its implementation allowing injustice in.

I value the “thin line” between things because often it’s there we receive understanding and clarity.

Patience & Enabling

There is a thin line between patience and enabling and I think that line is to do with purpose or lack of it. True patience flourishes when it is aligned with divine purpose and without this, one is prone to enable situations and/or people that usher in experiences and ways of behaving, that do not match up to whatever our individual divine purpose is. (I am not referring to the collective purpose)

Often in the name of patience, we can steer off course and enable our loved ones even ourselves. Because without purpose to measure things through, everything becomes convoluted and it’s easy for a false sense of guilt and it’s qualifying perception, to be mistaken for a voice of reason or compassion.

Another way of understanding what our divine purpose is, is knowing your true calling in life. This would be personal to you and it often has ‘symptoms’ like what you’re most passionate about, what do you check passionately, when things other wise roll off you, like water of a ducks back.

Your divine purpose that Allah helps to bring you into alignment with, is therefore things he already created you to have the substance for. The spark and drive is imminent and it pours into every aspect of your life, even if you aren’t always aware of its happenings. What people tell you you’re great at believe them, as it’s a major indicator and what you think you are good at keep developing.

Patience/sabr is a virtue one of the greatest in the sight of Allah and it is a gift for people to be met with and a manifestation of self care when you meet yourself with it, but what it never is, is enabling. Unlike enabling, patience doesn’t disconnect you from your divine purpose. As the spark and drive within its flow also pours into matters or to people you’re called to be patient about or with.

That’s one way to see if you’ve crossed the thin line between patience and enabling. Do you feel disconnected from self or connected in flow.

When you’re patient Allah replenishes your soul when you’re enabling, feelings of imbalances occur. These feelings are guidance to indicate and direct to truth.

Enabling in the name of patience , regardless of when it’s done or with whom, the impact is the same. Measuring things through whether or not it matches up with personal divine purpose is therefore key. Because It keeps you in check inwardly and so too governs well your outward reality. Because you yourself and your loved ones receive the best of you.

Be truly patient 💎

3am Mind

You know today I was out walking and it suddenly dawned on me, the wisdom behind how my life in the past couple of years unfolded. As I listened to my egos whispering of what it would have loved to have done, with all that I’m cognisant of now. I smiled inwardly as I witnessed the subtle truth that though those musings made me chuckle, I loved more & wholeheartedly what Allah did.

Like I just can’t even fathom the immense wisdom behind his plan for me. The kind you can only connect, when you look back.

I genuinely believe certain swords in my back, were best left there for the divine himself to pull out. Rather than my ego which was the only way of life I was acustomed to before.

I know this would be the most gassed thing I probably could say about myself, but ever since I became consciously aware of my worth as a soul, I feel a sense of protection around who I share myself with and what I associate my self with. In all areas of my life, especially in the one thing that’s borrowed which is time. I couldn’t feel more content in sharing my life with the people in it and in the ways and things I now aspire to. 

It’s unbelievable to me that in all my years in this world, the criteria I judge worth by, finally is what’s worthy of me? Instead of an unconscious am I worthy.

I think what happened today was a silent ceremony where I was made to look at the swords from my past and with contentment buried it with gratitude accompanied by the remembrance of Allah. Gratitude for the space I needed that his way created. Space in which I was able to realise my soul and the expansive inner mansion it had for me….called home. 

The soul learns and transcends while the ego cares for right and wrongs. I don’t anymore.

Love & the Drowing

The Drowning can’t ‘save’ the Drowning
Without mutual acknowledgment and empathy of struggles in a given matter. Otherwise one unconsciously expects things exclusively that another requires themselves. This expectation puts the onus of lack on the other and alludes one to the unfairness in the imbalances that birth it. The same nurturing of vulnerability, the same quality in understanding, patience, trust and love one seeks and needs, to not see how another does to, isn’t something I can work with and I embrace that with unconditional love and understanding for myself and all that I feel. Not doubt about and identification with what is.

To not acknowledge how nurture is required equally is the root of disconnection. It paves way for the one onus is indirectly put on, to do to themselves what the other avoids doing to their own soul so as to self actualise in peace.

So people are lovable if they bow down to serve others and put on hold what their own growth requires. Because If they ain’t serving in ways pleasing or safe to another than there is a flaw in them that must one get away from.

Love can become service to ego, when you can’t see the imbalances above. Imbalances in how one measures or judges it.

Love for me isn’t a choice it’s a matter of the heart with its own will as directed by Allah. It isn’t something you can deny.
To assume one to be cut off from love for you  or lacking in being present with it. Is to conflate ones present focus during trying times, as they swim and prioritise themselves, with your own fears.

The true test for holding space for peoples feelings and having loving trust of and for them is in how you maneuver with your own when theirs confront it because of something you did because of your perception of what they did.

I don’t understand much, what I do understand is what makes someone not see all of what’s said above. That’s my love.

 

 

 

Trust & Fitra

“To the righteous it will be said, “O reassured soul, return to your Lord, well-pleased and pleasing [onto Him]…enter among my [righteous] servants..enter you, My Paradise”

(Quran 89:27-30)

I think if our children are an amana/trust, so is our own fitra. It’s justice for your soul to experience alignment with it to the best of your ability. Ultimately that is what this world is about. Our purpose of life connects to Allah in achievement of that. How you with stand the toil & trouble that involves that. Our purpose of life is to worship him, so we are not cut off from what helps us on this journey back to our natural disposition. He is not in need of us or our worship. We are in need of him and it,  to do that, and return home having benefited from that. 

Divine Interruption

When you are distracted from preserving your own heart. Allah does it for you. This is why doors you insist on walking through close on you. What you feel, all of it, are guiding you to what you weren’t doing that Allah does for you.

To sit through such feelings is difficult because you are walking through the effects of  the wounds, that hold up the very veils preventing you from seeing the distractions  for what they are.

Allah wills to give you sight where you are blind.