When something hurts you, you can either tense up against it or you can soften towards it.
To soften is to flow with, to tense up is to resist. I find when I soften I feel a warm wave descend over me, it feels like being carried by a warm sea. It feels like hunger met with a home cooked meal. It takes me to a shore of self compassion that leads to inner peace.
When ever I tensed up it felt like I was squeezing through a narrow lane. That suddenly got narrower the further I walked in. It was crushing and felt like oxygen was slipping away. It left me abandoned and in a state of dejection not sometimes but always. I felt shame instead of compassion I found myself lost and a long way away from home.
Two ways two different outcomes. I choose to soften because I’ve experimented enough to know the results. Choose to soften towards emotions that sting, you will find love in the feelings that come after it not misery. You will find Divine love that heals and restores. You will find divine love that teleports you home.