Compassion and balance are replenished and summoned in, through the awareness that where a person stands during a particular stage or moment in their growth. Doesn’t take away from the potential carried within their soul.
Separate your state and stages in and during growth, from your potential that is your worth. If you do that for yourself you can develop and cultivate perceptions about others that are balanced and just.
Don’t hold one to their potential through expectancy and desires whilst forgetting their state or stage of growth during circumstances that arise. Doing so leads to warped conclusions that hurt you and others.
You hurt because you feel let down or denied love because you aren’t worth the effort or are simply too much. The other is hurt because lack is reflected back to them about them, because they didn’t meet your desires or fulfil expectations.