The Drowning can’t ‘save’ the Drowning
Without mutual acknowledgment and empathy of struggles in a given matter. Otherwise one unconsciously expects things exclusively that another requires themselves. This expectation puts the onus of lack on the other and alludes one to the unfairness in the imbalances that birth it. The same nurturing of vulnerability, the same quality in understanding, patience, trust and love one seeks and needs, to not see how another does to, isn’t something I can work with and I embrace that with unconditional love and understanding for myself and all that I feel. Not doubt about and identification with what is.
To not acknowledge how nurture is required equally is the root of disconnection. It paves way for the one onus is indirectly put on, to do to themselves what the other avoids doing to their own soul so as to self actualise in peace.
So people are lovable if they bow down to serve others and put on hold what their own growth requires. Because If they ain’t serving in ways pleasing or safe to another than there is a flaw in them that must one get away from.
Love can become service to ego, when you can’t see the imbalances above. Imbalances in how one measures or judges it.
Love for me isn’t a choice it’s a matter of the heart with its own will as directed by Allah. It isn’t something you can deny.
To assume one to be cut off from love for you or lacking in being present with it. Is to conflate ones present focus during trying times, as they swim and prioritise themselves, with your own fears.
The true test for holding space for peoples feelings and having loving trust of and for them is in how you maneuver with your own when theirs confront it because of something you did because of your perception of what they did.
I don’t understand much, what I do understand is what makes someone not see all of what’s said above. That’s my love.