An experience being had, doesn’t qualify your attributes. Feel what it brings, take the lessons you receive and leave the rest where it is. Meaning don’t take from it stories about yourself. That’s ego making a play for power through victimisation.
There is no L to be taken or had until your ego successfully achieves that power above. Your soul always pushes you to take Lessons from your experiences as it supports the transformations required for the destiny Allah planned for you. Your ego pushes to take losses not lessons, so that it can assert it self & all the while tricking you into thinking that you’re asserting yourself or are about too.
Synergetically Yours 