How can you spot where you’ve set up a false self? How do you know where remnants of its existence, still make an appearance in your life?
By looking closely at the things you fear negativity can be attached to. Those aren’t your fears, it’s your false selves. That fear is an indication of where a false self version of you is making an appearance in a present moment.
The fear in the above mentioned context is a sign of the carbon monoxide your false self is breathing out. If your soul isn’t breathing in a moment, your false self is. They can not both take oxygen simultaneously (metaphorically speaking)
Remove a false self layer by acknowledging how you feel. Especially acknowledge & state how you feel when a fear arises of you being perceived as negative because of it. Those who mind don’t matter and those who matter in the grand scheme of things don’t mind.
Peoples intent are not your business, that is a matter in the jurisdiction of Allah. What is your business is the effect.
Allow your feelings to point out to you where a boundary is crossed. To stifle how you feel because it would be judged as being negative. Is to allow a false version of you to appear that gives no significance to a violated boundary. When a boundary is violated it is you who is summoned to know first not the one doing it.
In that moment you go one of two ways, self abandonment or self love. Choose self love, No one can warp your reality or disable your truth but you.
Sometimes it takes a long time for one to see just how much they’ve violated their own boundaries. How much they’ve abandoned themselves. Because that false self version is in the way, perpetuating the very blind spots that ensure their self abandonment and poor boundaries persist.
I have a false self present when I tip toe around someone’s feelings. I then feel angry when I see my own is shown no consideration. These people only reflect back what you do to yourself.
Anger isn’t negativity it’s an emotion highlighting self abandonment or lack of boundary, Sometimes both.
Ironically what your false self feared about being judged as negative, and what your true self leaks by way of anger that communicates you are out of alignment, in the end may get the same label of being negative put on them. Some people often need an exit to avoid responsibility. They sometimes have no qualms about taking one that blames you.
If you stay true to yourself and in alignment with speaking your truth. Your soul doesnt get the same wrap as your false self. And even if it does your soul remains composed as it is aligned with self trust.
In embracing your shadow you find strength through your unconditional self love because you’ve aligned it with unconditional self acceptance.
In assuming your firm side is harmful you fragment yourself.
You are not a buffet presented to be nit picked from, you are a 3 course meal meant to be digested with acceptance and love.
Do it first yourself.